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How to Say "No"

5/1/2012

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Guidelines for staying strong while taking good care of yourself:

1. Buy some time.

When someone asks you to do something, put some space between the request and your answer. Before automatically agreeing, tell the person that you'll get back to them.

Second, let the person know up front that you may not be able to commit. Telling a person right away that you're cutting back on your hectic schedule takes pressure off you and encourages the person asking for help to consider other options sooner rather than later.

2. Do a gut check.

Check to see if the request that's being made of you is something you'd really like to do. Rating your desire on a scale of 1-10 might help, as well as asking yourself, "If I knew this person wouldn't be angry, disappointed, or upset, would I say no?"

Often, we respond to other's desires before considering our own needs. Certainly, there will be times that we do things for others we would rather not do, in order to be supportive of the relationship. Make sure these things are done to show love or strengthen connection, not out of guilt or obligation (which can lead to resentment).

3. Tell the truth directly - with grace and love.

-- Be honest about how you feel without over explaining yourself. Be genuine in your explanation, but don't give the impression that you're open to any discussion.

-- Stick to one or two concise lines about why you cannot fulfill the request.

-- Offer a recommendation, if you have one, as to how the person might be helped.

Remember, you are responsible TO others to tell the truth with respect and care, but you are NOT responsible FOR their emotions. Don't measure success by the response you receive from the other person, but by how you feel once your anxiety about the conversation disappears. More than likely, you'll feel a sense of relief!

-- Adapted from The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson

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How to Disappoint the Right Way

4/24/2012

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Part of extreme self-care is learning to say no to things that are not healthy for you. This means that we will let others down, something many of us are uncomfortable doing.

For the remainder of this week, we will look at some guidelines for staying strong in saying no while taking good care of yourself.

Your first priority in learning to place healthy boundaries, however, is to surround yourself with a support system that will make it easier for you "to tell and live your truth". These people can be a spouse, friends, or coworkers and will hold you up as you take your first wobble steps toward self-care.

Who will you turn to for support??

--  Adapted from The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson

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Awareness

4/10/2012

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"Awareness is a powerful catalyst for positive change".

Become aware of the areas in your life that you feel drained and the ways in which you deprive yourself of what you need (sleep, exercise, "down" time).

What do you need more of right now?

What do you need less of?

Who or what is causing you to feel resentful and why?

Taking the time to answer these questions will help you gain greater clarity about what your soul needs most for care and restoration.

--  Adapted from The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson

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Pre-flight Instructions...

3/27/2012

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Instead of viewing self-care as being selfish, consider the pre-flight instruction a stewardess gives that tells adults to put on their own oxygen mask before that of their child. 

When we care for ourselves in a deliberate manner, we begin to care for others in a healthier and more effective way. We become more conscious and conscientious. We make choices out of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation. (And what a wonderful example to set for those we care about!)

Does the idea of self-care make you feel guilty and selfish? How will you challenge these feelings today?

-- Adapted from The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson
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